WOMAN ON TOP

Skin upon skin creates sensations of wallowing in sensuality; some of the very best impressions of love-making can be when one’s full body is pressed against the other.  But as a lead in to such all-immersion scenarios, here are some of the more athletic love positions where she, feeling strong, builds up body tension.  Positions…

TOTAL SEX HEALTH

Lots of us believe that good health is about keeping fit in both body AND mind.  Going jogging is not enough.  And you can easily fall ill from over-exercising.  What’s really interesting is that today’s scientists are themselves coming round to this view: –          Hans-Peter Durr a renowned physicist and former Director of the world…

THE SEXUAL POWERHOUSE

MY SEXUAL ENERGY PACK The idea that our bodies can generate sexual energy is an exciting concept.  My Sexual Energy pack (originally published by Dorling Kindersley) tried to put the reader in touch with physical and mental disciplines that allow them to feel energised in general and specifically sexually empowered. The accompanying booklet offered a…

CAN YOU SPEAK THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE?

One of my earliest sex therapy cases concerned a couple where the husband complained that the wife never wanted sex.  “It’s not true,” she angrily protested.  In fact the boot was on the other foot.  Or rather the nightgown.  This was a flimsy lacy number, which she wore on the nights when she felt like…

THE HARDEST THINGS YOU’LL EVER HAVE TO SAY

We’re drifting apart. Maybe you’ve just sat down after dinner, a lovely meal which you spent lots of time preparing.  You’ve done everything right.  The house is clean, the kids are in bed and at last you’ve got time to talk.  But as you quietly read your book and he sits engrossed in the newspaper,…

FRONT MASSAGE – STOKING THE FURNACE

Faced with a partner’s front, many newcomers to massage hesitate.  Men find themselves faced with the delicacy of whether or not to touch the breasts, both sexes  meet with the uncertainty of how to treat the genitals.  Anxiety creeps in.  Fortunately the necessity to take massage slowly means we gain the opportunity to get more…

ENERGISING THE BACK

Before the human body can generate sensual energy, it needs to be freed of every day tension. This is paradoxical since it is by tensing the body that we come to sexual arousal and climax.  But, to put it simply, it seems that there’s ‘good’ tension and ‘bad’ tension.  The stress of the day that…

SPREAD TWO FEELING GOOD

Dr Kenneth Pelletier tells the story of a heart specialist colleague who consulted him about a severe heart murmur.  Having run every physical test on himself that he could think of, without producing any answers, the heart specialist had finally turned to his colleague in behavioural medicine.  Could stress be the culprit? During the consultations,…

SPREAD 13 – THE CREATIVITY OF AGE

It’s a myth that all creative life stops at the age of 45.  Humans are hampered only by how they see themselves and individuals, such as Picasso, have carried on ‘creating’ until they died.  Staying on top of the same skill and thought processes for an entire lifetime is a huge feat since it means…

SPREAD 12 – SCHOOLROOM OF THE THIRD AGE – TASKS

The message the older generation is passing down is that you are never too old to stop learning.  Keeping an open-mind and allowing that mind to remain flexible is vital.  But the way anything keeps flexible is through exercise.  In the case of the brain it means either grappling with something new or repeating earlier…