GOOD LISTENING 1

CASE HISTORY RONNIE AND CLAIRE WHY CAN’T I GET HIM TO KISS ME? For some men and women, a kiss connects directly to their sexual response system, lighting them up uncontrollably. Claire was unhappy because by omitting to kiss her during sex her husband was denying her a sensuous experience of sex. CLAIRE is 44 and…

HOW TO DEAL WITH JEALOUSY 1

CASE HISTORY OLIVIA MY JEALOUS AFFAIR “Jealousy made me have an affair”. Excuse or genuine reason? This is the debate that Olivia put herself through when feeling very guilty after the event. Olivia is 32 and a professional musician. She is dark, serious-looking with round glasses, quiet clothes and flat shoes. “I spent months feeling awful because…

Sexual intimacy – what is it?

One description reads: “that wonderful feeling of warmth and caring and tenderness which evolves through love-making.” Intimacy is certainly what most people look for when entering into a loving relationship. The loss of intimacy is a loss grieved for in a major way by those who’ve known it at its most intense. Of course there are many sides…

SEXUAL INTIMACY

CASE HISTORY GEORGE AND GINA HOW CAN WE BRING BACK SEXUAL INTIMACY? When one partner moves into the spare bedroom, even if it’s for the innocent reason of needing a good nights sleep, one of the sad side effects is that feelings of intimacy slip. Gina was getting increasingly distressed by what felt like the loss of…

ANNE HOOPER’S ULTIMATE RELATIONSHIP GUIDE

GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER KNOWING YOURSELF FIRST 1. INTRO What Do I Expect From A Relationship? 2. Who Am I? The Family Constellation. 3. Who Should I Be? Different belief systems. 4. What is Right and Wrong? 5. What is My Outside World Like? 6. Comparing Beliefs WHY DO I BEHAVE LIKE THIS? 7….

HOW TO DEAL WITH GRIEF 1

CASE HISTORY HARRY I WANT TO MAKE LOVE If you’ve remained faithful to one partner all your married life, you can be left with an unexpected problem when they die. Harry discovered that even though he wanted to be sexual, he couldn’t consumate the new relationship. Harry is 56 and a retired plumber. Although a relatively young…

GIVE A LITTLE, GET A LITTLE 1

CASE HISTORY JANNA AND HAMMOND BATTLE OF THE BED When we are young we feel the need to live life quickly. If for any reason a partner denies us sex, it can feel impossible to last without. Even though Hammond knew Janna would have time for him eight weeks on, he insisted he couldn’t cope now. JANNA is…

WHO AM I? FAMILY CONSTELLATION 1

CASE HISTORY TIM AND TINA MY MOTHER WOULDN’T LIKE IT This young wife was so embarassed when lovemaking that not even her husband could persuade her to relax. Her acute inhibition put a great deal of strain on the young couple although her sexual responses, when given a chance to show themselves, were perfectly normal. TIM is 21…

DO’S AND DON’T’S OF SEX 1

CASE HISTORY ARTHUR WHY CAN’T I KEEP A SEXUAL PARTNER? ARTHUR is 36 and a salesman. He’s tall, dark and handsome, casually clothed but nervous. He crosses and re-crosses his legs, wrings his hands and sweats. “Nearly all my friends are settled down, married and have kids. I’m the odd one out and I don’t like it….

HOW TO DEAL WITH DEPRESSION 1

CASE HISTORY NATALIA AND JOSE I WANT HIM TO DESIRE ME MORE Anxiety and depression can kill feelings of sexuality stone dead. Jose’s fear of going broke had turned him right off love-making but his wife Natalia believed it was all her fault. She was desperate to be attractive to her man. NATALIA is 38 and a…