DEALING WITH NEGATIVE EMOTIONS

The famous phrase from the movie Dune had it that “Fear is the mindkiller”. Psychologists now believes that any extreme emotion which floods the brain impedes rational thought.  Of course there are excellent reasons why we should occasionally feel angry, jealous or afraid, but it is when these get stuck on some kind of permanent…

THE ROUTE TO HAPPINESS

Happiness appears to depend on good health, having enough to eat, good relationships and a positive attitude toward life. Since life regularly throws obstacles in the path of the smoothest operators, it is also clear that it isn’t so much problems which make us unhappy as the attitude we bring to bear on them.  There…

RELAXATION

INTRO Stress and relaxation are opposite sides of the same coin.  Without one, you cannot have the other.  First step in the journey to sexual dynamism is to learn about the limits of bodily tension. THE TENSION VERSUS RELAXATION PRINCIPLE Not all relaxation is desirable – if we were relaxed to the point of being…

PROLONGING THE EXPERIENCE OF INTERCOURSE

The Taoist belief is that prolonged intercourse is desirable because it ensures that the sexual batteries are re-charged.  But sometimes the sheer excitement of all that wonderful feeling coursing through the body, as every inch of you touches and rubs against every inch of your partner, proves too much.  Regardless of your desires or of …

PROGRAM

ENERGY FOR A DAY – PROGRAMME We are poor at taking time off to nourish our bodies.  And yet, all of us have a need to do this, regularly.  The following is a touch program for one day only. ARRANGING THE DAY If you have a family farm it out to someone else or, if…

MORE PELVIC EXERCISES

INTRO Inhibitions prevent us from being fulfilled.  The over-layer of childhood commands – ‘thou shall not touch thyself’, ‘thou shall avoid appearing ridiculous at all costs’ – are the greatest culprits.  The exercises on this page are designed not just to awaken pelvic sensation but also to test and overcome childhood shame. THINK POSITIVE –…

PELVIC EXERCISES 1

INTRO Did you know that some people discover their entire body comes alive during love-making?  Their limbs literally vibrate with sexual energy.  Others however complain they feel sensation only in the genitals.  Is there any way in which they could learn to open the body more fully? LOOSENING UP THE BODY It helps to understand…

FALLING IN LOVE AGAIN

It’s happened.  You’ve spent a while mourning your ex and swearing you’ll never have anything to do with the opposite sex again and then bam … it’s Spring, the trees are in leaf, there’s a smell of flowers in the air, the breeze is balmy and you are suddenly kissing someone.  Perhaps the most poignant…

EXTREMELY GOOD FRIENDS

INTRO A couple of recent surveys disclosed that friends are often rated as highly or even higher than lovers and marital partners.  Such is the value put on friendship that people of all ages prize it.  In the transient world we live in, we may not expect a love relationship to last but we do…

KEEP YOUR MARRIAGE STRONG

LEARN TO CALM DOWN Some degree of fighting is good for a relationship.  But the dangers come floating in when fighting gets out of control.  Learning to calm down therefore is one of the prime elements in good fighting.  And some people find that harder than others. When you are flooded with powerful and painful…