SEX MASSAGE

One of the tenets of a good massage is that the masseur/se should be trusty, ie. you can trust him or her to refrain from becoming sexual.  (Sensual is not sexual.)  But clearly, the rules change when you massage with a lover.  Sexual massage is given the opportunity of becoming an art form.  Naturally, stimulating…

MAN ON TOP

One of the joys of the man-on-top positions is that there are so many variations. Most of these involve the woman altering the position of her legs – for example, she might put them straight out in front of her so that her man is almost trapped between her legs.  This offers extra friction often…

LOVE MADNESS

You can’t think of anyone else; life feels totally different; you telephone each other repeatedly for no good reason; you do mad things you wouldn’t dream of normally.  No prizes for guessing this is love.  But, sex researchers now say that this is also a description of obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), the illness much favoured…

THE NEW MILLENIUM

FUTURE SEX Viagra may prove to be a major milestone in how men and women live their lives, way beyond the medicinal aspect.  With its invention we have reached the world that Woody Allen described in Sleepers, where the ‘orgasmatron’ provided instant orgasms and sex was immediately gratified.  Just as huge social changes followed in…

THE DRUG CULTURE OF THE 90’s

THE MEDICALISATION OF SEX THERAPY In the UK, in 1996, a chair in sexual medicine was established at St George’s Hospital Medical School, London.  This was one of the first major training organisations in the UK to initiate a sex therapy programme, largely thanks to the work of Dr Elizabeth Stanley.  In the US the…

CONSOLIDATION IN THE 80s

THE FOUNDING OF THE FATHERS AND THE MOTHERS One of the perennial problems of professionals working in the sex field is that of ‘respectability’.  Whether or not you as a private person indulge in the occasional swinging party, what you do in the clinic or consulting room as a professional, is deadly serious.  People’s emotional…

THE OUTER REACHES OF SEX

Back in the States the world of sexuality appeared to be going mad.  Fuelled by the explosion of sexual liberality and the new information published regularly by the scientists, extraordinary organisations began to spring up.  These may not, at first glimpse, appear to have much to do with the serious work simultaneously being carried out…

A PLATEAU PHASE

KINSEY The systematic approach that Kinsey brought to sex research was what divided the old world of sexology from the new.  Kinsey’s work although not measuring up to modern standards of population sampling was a breakthrough, both in the immensity of people interviewed and because the findings played havoc with current popular beliefs.  As such,…

SEXOLOGY FOR BEGINNERS

FOREPLAY Sexology is the scientific study of human sexuality.  It is also a cauldron into which are tossed scraps of other sciences.  Sexology contains a hotch-potch of physiology, endocrinolgy, urology, pretty well every ‘olgy going.  There’s a lot to choose from. The time in which a science develops is relevant to how the science develops. …

CHAPTER EIGHT ACHIEVING HAPPINESS AND SELF-FULFILLMENT

INTRO All the research on men and women who survive healthily to become old share a trait that affects the entire quality of life, life from the beginning to the very end.  That trait is the ability to experience self-fulfilment.  The well-balanced age survivor in possession of such internal happiness has achieved a type of…