ADLERIAN SOCIETY (OF THE UNITED KINGDOM) & INSTITUTE FOR INDIVIDUAL PSYCHOLOGY

LIFESTYLE DEMONSTRATION WERE THESE OBJECTIVES ACHIEVED?   YES MOSTLY A LITTLE HARDLY NO  By the end of the workshop, it is hoped that participants would have:              explored the Lifestyle Assessment as a counselling tool            developed insight into the connectedness between our earliest days and…

MASSAGE AND LOVING

Introduction  The way we touch people makes an impression from the moment we meet. If we touch with warmth and assurance we invite warmth and appreciation in return. If we caress sensually, we provoke sensuality. With lovers, touch is the most immediate and important means of demonstrating love and providing reassurance. Yet touch does not…

THE KISS GUIDE TO THE KAMA SUTRA

INTRODUCTION WHEN I WAS FIRST ASKED to write a version of the Kama Sutra, I was less than enthusiastic. Although I am fascinated by human nature, I am not very interested in sex gymnastics-style and I didn’t feel there was much I could relate to in the text. However, when – with some reluctance –…

THE KISS GUIDE TO SEX

WHEN I WAS 12 YEARS OLD my mother handed me a book and said “read this”. The book was an insensitive sex manual that was as vague as it was crude. I ended up knowing about the mechanics of sex, i.e., sex is penetration, but absolutely nothing else. No mention was made of a loving…

HOW TO MAKE GREAT LOVE TO A WOMAN

PREFACE Most people might think that, when you are asked to write two books on sex, one for men and another for women, all you have to do is change every ‘him’ for ‘her’ then one book becomes two. An economy of words and good husbandry of text, a quick trip round the writing factory…

A MARRIAGE ON THE ROCKS

John and Mary’s marriage was foundering. They had been patching up their life together for the past year, but their frequent quarrels always tore holes in it again. When John found another partner, that spelt the end. As in most divorces, feelings between the two of them were bitter. Their arguments became more and more…

THE BODY ELECTRIC

HOW THE LONDON PRE-ORGASMIC WORKSHOP BEGAN My interest in helping women who have never experienced orgasm arose partly from hearing about Betty Dodson’s work and reading her magnificent book Liberating  Masturbation, and partly from the work that I do at the Forum Clinic. Betty is a New York artist who makes huge, erotic pencil drawings…

BETTER SEX INTRO

The bad news is that you don’t get so much sex when you are older.  The good news is that you don’t want so much sex when you are older.  And before you panic and swear you will never grow up, please relax.  You don’t have to worry needlessly in advance.  You can still be…

WHAT IS MY OUTSIDE WORLD LIKE? 1

CASE HISTORY ALI AND PAM I SUSPECT HIM OF HAVING OTHER WOMEN When we marry we usually expect to spend a great deal of time with our partner. If, for some reason, we don’t, all kinds of doubts and insecurities start creeping in. In Pam’s case, her unfamiliarity with her husband’s lifestyle brought on an acute case of…

MAKING TOUCH WORK FOR YOU 1

CASE HISTORY ANDREW AND VICKY LEARNING TO LOVE AGAIN When a couple report having grown apart they often mean literally as well as emotionally. Andrew and Vicky regretted that their busy lives had somehow stifled their love-making so that it had virtually ceased. VICKY is 36 and markets a group of artists. She is blonde and bouncy,…